8 Ways to Improve your Confidence by BOOSTING others!
Making others feel better and boosting others behind their back or to their faces is extremely gratifying, creates a positive narrative for you to others, and allows genuine bliss to overcome self doubts or jealousy. To boost someone else up increases your confidence and self-worth. Let’s look at some examples you can try to improve others and your own self image. Let’s go!
Compliment Strangers
Instant boost of confidence for both parties involved. Be that drunk girl in the bathroom stereotype all day! lol but really! Everyone likes hearing compliments and it might make their day!
I might look bad sharing this story but hey! I learned and improved from it! I was at a restaurant by the beach. People dressed down in bathing suits and sun dresses. I see this beautiful woman walk in with her boyfriend. She looked like a model! Stunning nude heels perfectly matched with a silk floral blue romper. She had white almond nails, perfect eyebrows, winged eyeliner, big pink lips, perfectly curled hair. I mean she looked perfect, so the obvious thing for me, looking like a sun burnt potato in a beat up navy romper, was to compliment her! I went to say something but that negative monster inside me stopped me. “gggrrrrr She probably gets several compliments and YOU WILL JUST BE BUGGING HER” So I walked away.
I enjoyed a great dinner. Then after I went to the bathroom, was washing my hands, and she pops out of a stall and comes to wash her hands next to me. BOOM I had to say something, this woman needed to hear some praise. lol So I look up at her through the mirror and we make eye contact. I say “I love your romper! You look amazing” She stopped and let a big sigh out and giggled. She looked at me and said in a southern accent “ohhh thank you so much sweet heart, I feel so overdressed, my boyfriend didn’t tell me where we were eating” and she laughed some more. I was like “Better dress up than down, right?” and we both giggled and I left. So even though she was SLAYYING she felt unsure. I’m so glad I complimented her! She was stunning!
Give those compliments!
Give genuine compliments to those close to you
Any compliment is better than none! However, a compliment that speaks to what someone has worked for or earned goes further than something they didn’t do anything for. For example
” Pat, I love your beautiful blue eyes!”
Compared to
“Pat, I’m so happy you got that promotion! You worked long hours and still showed up early to all the meetings, Good job!”
See how one is sweet, the blue eyes, but this Pat person didn’t DO anything for them besides have great genes. lol but the other compliment had more meaning, the awesome part of me recognized the awesome work he has been putting in. That speaks volumes to be recognized for work or lifestyle changes. Be genuine and show interest.
Talk Positively of others
Office chit chat, staff room meetings, going out with some friends, or situation you find to be in a group of people ALWAYS talk fondly of others. Talking shit about others shows you have nothing to contribute to society besides the useless emotion of jealousy. Now we are all adults so we know some people are trash people who are mean and rude. I’m not saying stand up for them but talk more about the individual speaking. If that makes sense? For example
” I hate how Ashley never invites me to go to the movies with her. She goes with everyone but me. I think it’s because I wouldn’t pay for her…”
See these conversations are unavoidable. But instead of focusing on the negative character being talked about simply change the narrative to asking questions about the situation and not person. For example,
“Would you want to see a movie with Ashley?”
“If you do have you considered asking her to a movie?”
See the positive twists on things will boost everyone in the situation.
Stand Up for Others in Conversations
Simple, super simple and plays off the last tip. If you are with people and they gossip about someone you genuinly care about do not hide it! Stand up for them! Also, if you do not know that person at all, try to see the positive.
For example you and your friends are out and drinking cocktails, milkshakes, coffee, whatever and a woman walks by with a bright yellow dress.
One of your friends makes a face, the other smiles and nods. They both laugh and both agree that “Yellow is no ones color”. Well this a good time to stand up for another person. You can say “I think she rocked that yellow dress! I might buy a yellow dress now!” Little things to boost up others in the conversation can help you feel great! And if a group is talking about a close friend or someone you genuinely like and you speak up for that person in a kind way that will show your compassion and help your friend out too!
For example.
“Wow Zack has been late to work everyday this week”
“Oh yeah, I did notice he was coming in a few minutes late but it must be because the new baby. Him and his wife must be having trouble with sleeping. I’m sure if you talk to him about it he will fix it or explain.”
See you are confirming the other person’s concern but you are also looking at this with a critical and caring eye. This will make you boost others and yourself!
Be Active with Someone
Tough day at work? Room mate problems? Let’s Sweat it OUT! Exercise creates endorphins and allows more oxygen flow. It’s a great thing! If a friend is feeling down or upset go for a walk and listen! Boosting both of you because you both get exercise and some time to relieve some stress. Offer to go to a work out class too! You might not even talk but doing something active together will boost you both! It might seem intimidating or scary but if you both have fun, that’s all that matters!
Be There for Someone
Listen, listen, listen! ACTIVE listening. Being there for someone will show them they are not alone. Just being there and listening shows a lot and will give the person a new insight and possibly confidence to take action. Really listening and connecting will make someone feel heard. Feeling heard boosts everyone’s confidence! Now don’t try to give a ton of advice or diagnose that person, just simply listen and ask questions. Listening and showing people they do matter, their words matter, they are important will go further than you think!
Volunteer with Someone
Volunteering can be therapeutic, exciting, and beneficial to all parties! Volunteering is always on my to do list! Adding company or a friend can hold accountability and share the experience with others! It will boost everyone’s confidence working together and helping the community. Helping others can be so much fun and stress relieving! I would try out local places first.
Spread Kindness
“In a world where you can choose to be anything at all. Be kind.” This saying is beautiful. Sometimes we can have a rough day, bad temper, emotional day, or feel sick. We have the power to choose how we react and act around people. It is easier to make someone feel unsure or bad but it is harder to be genuinely kind. Take on this challenge to uplift others through kindness to grow your confidence!